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A Different Perspective


Yesterday was probably one of the hardest days I’ve ever had to make it through. I mentioned last week about the personal situation a friend is going through and yesterday was the day we all faced the truth.

Today I woke up ready for something better and am just being plagued with issues at work. I haven’t left my computer since 7AM this morning and have been going nonstop fielding emails and having one conference call after the other regarding the Getting Gorgeous event I’m throwing this August with Audrey McClelland. It’s coming down to the wire and everything needs to be finalized. It was all very easy until this last week or so.

But even through these insanely stressful moments, I find myself remembering that whatever it is I am dealing with isn’t that bad compared to what other people are dealing with today. After all, being busy means good things are happening right? That means the business is doing great and my partner and I are succeeding.  That is the right way to look at it – despite that need I’m feeling to shut down and ignore the massive amount of emails that keep coming in.

My aunt told me a quote yesterday that I actually loved. I wish I remembered it word for word but it’s something like this:

The deeper and darker the cave the more appreciative we are of the light.

That one sentence speaks volumes to me. And while today is NOTHING but nonsense in the grand scheme of things, it does give me a nice perspective on negative events that have occurred in my life. Just wanted to share that quote with you all tell you that today is what you make of it.

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Vera Sweeney, mom, blogger, social media influencer and New York resident, is the founder of LadyAndTheBlog.com. She is considered one of the top female digital influencers in today’s social media space. Her lifestyle and parenting brand helps busy women stay on top of the latest trends in fashion, food, family and travel.


  1. This is long, but every busy person needs to read and remember. It is by Robert Heinlein and from his book, “Time Enough For Love”


    Do not confuse “duty” with what other people expect of you; they are utterly different. Duty is a debt you owe to yourself to fulfill obligations you have assumed voluntarily. Paying that debt can entail anything from years of patient work to instant willingness to die. Difficult it may be, but the reward is self-respect.

    But there is no reward at all for doing what other people expect of you, and to do so is not merely difficult, but impossible. It is easier to deal with a footpad than it is with the leech who wants “just a few minutes of your time, please — this won’t take long.” Time is your total capital, and the minutes of your life are painfully few. If you allow yourself to fall into the vice of agreeing to such requests, they quickly snowball to the point where these parasites will use up 100 percent of your time — and squawk for more!

    So learn to say No — and to be rude about it when necessary.
    Otherwise you will not have time to carry out your duty, or to do your own work, and certainly no time for love and happiness. The termites will nibble away your life and leave none of it for you.

    (This rule does not mean that you must not do a favor for a friend, or even a stranger. But let the choice be yours. Don’t do it because it is “expected” of you.)

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  3. I understand how you feel when you say today is just nonsense in the big picture, but remember it’s also your every day. Don’t feel bad for being a little bit bummed with your hectic life. Sometimes the little things add up and everything gets overwhelming. I think you are on the right track trying to find a perspective and a balance.

    I can’t imaging what your friend must be going through to have such profound effects for you, but know my thoughts and prayers are with your friends (and you!). I don’t know if you are religious at all, but the footprints poem might be a good read for you. It’s short and sweet and it’s helped me through some very hard times.

    Stay positive!

  4. I like the morning of the first sunshine cast down

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