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Stop Taking Life For Granted

So, as most of you know… this week has probably been the worst digital week of my life. My little empire collapsed and I was left to pick up the pieces while combating a sinus infection. I couldn’t PROCESS what was happening. My sites were wiped clean… what does that mean? The only backup we have available is 6 weeks old… how can that be?

But through this mess I realized that I take too many things for granted. My husband has been  INSANE since Saturday morning. He’s learned to put together servers, db pulls, and FTP/ mySQL commands. I’m watching him in awe. I couldn’t do what I needed to do because I was so overwhelmed that I completely shut down. I couldn’t made a decision about what needed to happen and Bill swooped right in and took charge.

After 4 days of complete chaos we now see the light at the end of the tunnel thanks to Shanna (the new love of my life and kick a&& designer), RackSpace (my new server company) and to my husband.

While watching television yesterday I turned to Bill and thanked him for stepping up and owning this disaster. I told him that I loved him and that I was so lucky to have him in my life. And after I said what I said I thought to myself… we don’t say these things enough. As people – we don’t thank each other for being good friends, good children, good moms. We might think it at times, but it’s never really discussed.

I’ve been a bad friend, bad daughter and a bad mom.

I take my mother for granted. I take the fact that my children are still young for granted. I take my husband for granted. I take my health for granted and my job and my friends. My friends who I hardly talk to anymore because I am always knee deep in work. There are people in my life who I love with all my heart and soul and I haven’t reached out to them in MONTHS. I mean – what is wrong with me?

I am so lucky to know these people and because I’m busy wrapped up in my own world I stopped making an effort. Adult friendships aren’t always easy. We all don’t live near one another so it’s harder to connect. Two really good friends now live in NJ – sometimes I feel like that’s another universe.  But yesterday I realized that I have to start making an effort to reach out and reconnect with these people who I am so blessed to know.

If this mess has taught me anything (and I believe that everything has a lesson attached to it) – it’s to not take life for granted. Every aspect of it. Every moment of the day that I get to be near my husband, every kiss goodnight I get to give to my kids and every conversation I get to have with the good people in my life – I’ve opened my eyes to it all and am embracing it with open arms.

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Vera Sweeney, mom, blogger, social media influencer and New York resident, is the founder of LadyAndTheBlog.com. She is considered one of the top female digital influencers in today’s social media space. Her lifestyle and parenting brand helps busy women stay on top of the latest trends in fashion, food, family and travel.


  1. So glad your site is up and running, and I love how you were able to see the silver lining through this horrible series of events. It is a good reminder for all of us to stop, look around us, and be thankful for what and who we have in our lives.

  2. Wow, Vera! Wow, Bill! I love how u put it all together. Thank you for being you.
    I love you,
    Aunt Marianne

  3. Vera, I think you’re awesome, you are not a bad daughter/wife/mother/friend. We all have our moments! You have so much goodness in you, that’s why you have so many great people in your life. After all, we attract those that resemble us 🙂

  4. Vera – You know I think you are amazing – as a mother, daughter, and friend. It’s hard to do it all but I always like to think these disasters have blessings iin disguise – making us appreciate life more and take notice when things are working (vs a major digital collapse like you just went through!) You’re wonderful, honest, hardworking and a super friend. It is hard to stay in touch with all those people who matter in our lives. Disconnecting now and then helps, but sometimes you just need that extra time when you can find it for yourself and your family. Don’t be too hard on yourself! xoxo ps and thank god for Bill…and if he has tech questions, tell him to give Mike a call. He’s a rockstar at this stuff and you all know i’d be lost without him!

  5. life is full of tests……ones we can never fail…..but are allowed to take over til we get it right………don’t take such things to heart…..so happy to be on the journey with you all

  6. I had no idea this drama had unfolded. I almost had a breakdown when my MAIL disappeared. I can’t imagine losing site and site info. Sending good vibes your way so something similar doesn’t happen again…and good advice.

  7. You are very right.

    I learned this in the hardest way possible when after 11 years and 49 weeks, I said goodnight to my daughter for the last time ever on this side of life.

    Like I tell my son now…one day it will be the last day that we have to spend together. It puts today’s ill feelings into perspective.

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