I told you I would do more of these lists! See, I’m putting in the effort as promised. Instead of beauty… I thought today I’d focus on relationships. I know many women out there would appreciate this list. Maybe even a few men. 
10 Ways To Ruin A Marriage
- Don’t communicate. Bottle up your feelings and deflect the issue until it’s stifling.
- Never compliment and just assume that your spouse “knows” how you feel about their looks / humor / humanity.
- Stop being spontaneous. Fall into a routine and happily walk that course without offering up any surprises.
- Stop dating. Once the ring gets on that finger, avoid putting in any effort to ensure your spouse continues to love you.
- Never do anything before receiving a multitude reminders from your spouse. They love taking on a parental role, right? It’s not like they have their own things to get done. Wait for the reminders – all 100 of them before actually doing anything.
- Ignore your spouse’s needs… despite being told about them (over and over and over again).
- Pretend that your relationship is in your full control. Continue to believe what you say goes and that it won’t have any consequence of emotion.
- Never show your spouse that you really want them – really, really want them.
- Ignore major issues. They will go away on their own, right?
- Never change.
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Vera Sweeney is a mom of two beautiful children and the founder of 
at 8:48 am
Preach it!!! Omg, especially the #9 and #1. Small problems become big problems when they are not solved when they are still small. I think my husband is sometimes so afraid of “fighting” that he ignores stuff until it’s so big you can’t ignore it anymore. Communication is the key!!
at 8:58 am
Oooh, full control would be a huge problem…at least for me. We often joke about who wears the pants in our relationship, but the bottom line, is no one is in charge. We have to discuss things and compromise.
at 9:09 am
thanks guys! and Katja – “preach it” cracked me up!!!
at 9:32 am
Some of these people might laugh at thinking “yeah righ” but they aren’t things to take lightly. Especially #1, 2, 3, hell all of them! Great list Vera.
at 9:47 am
I LOVEEEEEEEEE this article- like i want to kiss it full of the mouth and laminate it!
at 9:52 am
VERY well said!! Assuming they know how much you love them is just going to hurt the spouse AND you. I love how you said SO much with so few words. This is one of my favorite posts of yours so far Vera!
at 10:10 am
Thanks everyone!!
much appreciated.
at 10:42 am
I’d add: Cheat.
You can’t have your cake, and eat it too!
at 11:09 am
Good list Vera. I would add after 18 years of marriage that you should HUG at least once per day, it’s hard to be upset with someone who’s hugging you!
at 12:28 pm
#5–DRIVES ME INSANE!!! If I ask more than once, it’s treated like I’m being a nag.
I’d also add, fail to actually show them you APPRECIATE them. It’s one thing to show them you love them, another to actually appreciate them. Forget to say “thank you” often and assume that they’ll rearrange their schedule or find a sitter to accommodate whatever YOU have going on.
at 2:05 pm
You got that right!
Why do men constantly think that it’s okay to just let things go. Woman do not. It hangs on our hearts until it is taken care of! Don’t assume just being the spouse works, be the friend too!
at 3:25 pm
11. Keep score. It’s all fun and games until someone puts down their racket. Great list.
at 6:46 pm
Im guilty of ALL those things.
Thank God I’m not getting married.
at 7:42 pm
Great list! I’ll add Play Dumb. Pretend you don’t know the kids routines, what they pack for lunch, which medicines they need. That’s a great way to charm her socks off.
at 8:44 pm
Don’t forget… arguing in public or even just in front of friends. One of my friends thinks it’s ok if it’s only close friends. NOT OK!
I heard this a while ago…
Treat your girlfriend like a wife, and treat your wife like a girlfriend.
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