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Accepting Bed Rest: Feeling Much Better Today

It took me a good three days, but I’ve finally arrived to a place of peace. I needed to wrap my head around the fact that I am – once again – on bed rest. I will do anything for my babies. I’m not complaining, but it was a shock to the system to be told this journey has officially started.

The comments. The emails. The love. I cannot thank you all enough. Every single time one came through, I cried… HARD. Because I felt your concern. It practically enveloped me. Even now writing this paragraph is bringing me to tears. It took only a few minutes to leave those comments, but just know they meant the world to me. So, I thank you. I truly, truly thank you.

Bed rest sucks. I’m not going to lie. Every time I ask Bill to get me something, a piece of me breaks off. But he keeps insisting I’m not a burden… and I actually believe that he is telling the truth. He’s been down this road with me before. So, this is no surprise. Third baby. Third time on bed rest.

But still – he’s a boy. So, when he brings me food there’s no napkin. And then I have to remind him which shoves him right back into the kitchen. I’m DYING doing this to him. I just keep thanking him over and over again.

And at the same time… this control freak is having a heart attack. Everything is no longer in my hands. My house. The mail. The kids. I literally have to hand it all over to Bill and be good with that. It takes a lot of trust to be in this situation. I am literally handing my LIFE over to my husband… and hoping we all survive. LOL!! Not that he isn’t capable – that’s not what I’m saying. I’m just VERY TYPE A. Just the thought is giving me convulsions. Thus… the fact that I NEED to stay busy.

So, what have I been doing? I spent the first two days crying. FOR REAL. But like I said – I needed that. I had to get it all out of my system. And now that I’m officially empty of that sadness I have to move on and try to stay occupied.

I’ve DVR’d about 500 shows to watch. BOY – I am going to walk out of this experience a TV junkie. Prior to this situation, I hardly ever watched television. Now, it’s my new best friend. My actual best friend – Audrey – calls me about 600 times a day. And that’s good because those little interruptions are just what the doctor ordered. I need to hear about the  chaos that is her life to distract me from my non-existence so to speak.

My husband brought both the Xbox 360 AND the PS3 to my bedroom. Apparently, I need to go shopping! I own about 3 games between the two systems. LOL! My son and I have been kicking a** on Skylanders. That’s been pretty fun. I’ve enjoyed listening to him scream, “Mom!! Look out!” or  “Thanks for giving me the cheese, Mom.” It’s actually really sweet.

Bought a bed tray. Figured I’m going to really make use of it – so it was worth the $30. Eating in bed is disgusting. I am SO AGAINST IT. No one was ever allowed to even bring a DRINK into their rooms – forget about FOOD. But now I have no choice. Going to try to stay as sanitary as possible.

I looked in Rosetta Stone believe it or not – but they don’t have something for MAC computers. So, no go there. Figured if I had 4 months to kill… I might as well learn a language, right? LOL

Bill felt the baby move for the first time last night. We were both laying down watching… TV and he started to rumble. I grabbed his hand and placed it on my belly. So, that was a wonderful thing that happened this weekend. I can’t wait for the kids to feel!

What else did I do??????

I also spent a few hours reading up on things I’ve always wanted to check out. I’m going to get a little New Age on you folks. Ready for it?

I always thought that I was an empath. I know that sounds insane to those people who don’t believe in such things. But after 4 hours on the Internet reading everything under the sun, I can pretty much confirm it to be true. What am I going to do with this information? I have no idea. But I guess it was nice to get that confirmation. I even sent an article to my husband about being in a relationship with an empath. I cannot WAIT for him to wake up and read it. I am telling you – it is SPOT ON. I was actually cracking up reading it.

So, many things clicked. Truly. Again – it’s something I’ve said for the last 10 years of my life. But I’ve never thought to look into it. It was just the way I was so to speak. Not sure where to go with all of that…. but here I am.

Bought a book.

Signed up for a RedBox account.

Am considering knitting.

I don’t know what else to do?!

I have to look up exercises for women on bedrest because my legs are already beginning to hurt from not moving around. It’s only been a few days and I feel like my body is shutting down. Can I do leg lifts etc? My next doctor appointment is on Monday – so that is a question I need to ask.

Anyway – life will get back to normal for me tomorrow. Thank you for letting me have the last few days to marinade in my new situation. Even though we all don’t know one another on a very personal level, I want you to know that your comments TRULY meant the world to me.

 

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Vera Sweeney, mom, blogger, social media influencer and New York resident, is the founder of LadyAndTheBlog.com. She is considered one of the top female digital influencers in today’s social media space. Her lifestyle and parenting brand helps busy women stay on top of the latest trends in fashion, food, family and travel.

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  1. just whistle xoxoxo

  2. you have several great websites, im sure you have some ideas about websites you thought could work but you never started them – now is the time! 😉

  3. This will be a long bed rest but could you imagine doing this 15 years ago with out, XBox, laptop, ereader and redbox netflix streaming? Oy. Goodluck!! and lots of hugs and love

  4. Im sorry Im not an expert on bed rest but cant you for example lay around in different places for different times of the day? Like have your lunch on a sun bed out on the porch or backyard and spend evenings horizontal on your living room couch. Just so you dont feel like ur bound to your bedroom… I keep thinking about you during the holidays and hope you can atleast be on bedrest but still take part in the festivities if your family is hosting… I pray things get better for you and that the next 4 months are smooth sailing and QUICK! hugs

  5. Love you.
    I’m here for anything, at anytime.

  6. Been there, done that three times too….best gift I received on bed rest was a list of the top 100 all time best movies my friends compiled for me – everything from the classics to comedies. I’d email it to you if you’d like. That list made me feel like I had a purpose everyday (requirement was to watch at least one a day), made me feel like I was getting an education (I can now discuss almost any film during social gatherings), and definitely helped pass the time. One posting on your site polling your readers for their faves would produce a pretty good list for you. It’s hard to sit still, but its a gift to be granted stillness….and rare in life, so embrace it. And follow your doctors advice – my first time around I thought I could bend the rules and ended up in bed rest in the hospital…..in a semi reclined position with feet higher then head….felt like a Macy’s day parade float in the end with all that blood rushing to my head 24/7!! Be a good patient and learn the lessons life is teaching you.

  7. Good to read your latest update. I was getting concerned when I hadn’t seen you on social media. With my arm in a cast I’m struggling with needing my husband’s help a lot more and can imagine how difficult it is to have to stay in bed. Hang in there and remember there’s no place like home.

  8. Bed rest sucks and you will be a totally awesome at it anyway. Check out getglue.com – it’s fun to see what your friends are watching. I know what you mean about being an empath, which is why I had to stop reading blogs. You are surrounded by love, so I know everything will work out well 🙂

  9. How about pictures?! I know I have about 4,000 pics in iPhoto right now… You could edit pictures & make photo books! Knitting would be a good idea that could keep you busy! Get your Christmas cars done early? Make a book & movie list…try to read all the books & watch all the movies on your list? Thinking of you, hope bed rest goes by quickly!!

  10. From one fellow empath to another, many hugs. But think about it this way-you still have control. Maybe not in the things you traditionally had, but a new outlet for it. A new leadership role and that is over the baby you are growing. By being on bed rest and embracing it, you are taking control over the situation. Over the health of your baby and yourself. I had a lot of issues with my pregnancy last spring & summer. Including the birth & now another issue requiring surgery. Pregnancy may require you to give up control over the material things: dinner, shopping etc. but it gives you control over other things. I’m rambling but I’m on my cell phone & can’t edit. LOL. Oh and follow @mamasinbedrest. She has a bed rest DVD too! Hugs.

  11. Check out the website StumbleUpon! That might keep you occupied for a few hours at a time 🙂

  12. I learned how to knit on bedrest. That’s also how I found blogs and blogging.

  13. Keep on laughing as much as you can hon and remind yourself how short this time really is in the whole scheme of our lives…Plus the outcome won’t be too shabby with that baby boy in your arms.
    Good luck and be well!
    Cathy

  14. I was on bedrest with my son and it is not easy! Thinking of you and will be checking in on you as the weeks pass. Hang in there mama! xoxoxo!

  15. I love that you got your spirit back!! Been thinking about you the past few days, just now got a chance to comment. You can do this!!

  16. I love you tons and you are so full of life and energy. I think we’re going to learn a lot from what you find online in the next few weeks…like, what’s an empath? Ok. Looking it up now. Much love and remember, the end result will be gorgeous, as your two little ones can prove. And can’t think of a better man to have by your side caring for you. Hugs to you and Bill. I wish we were closer so I could do more. xoxox

  17. Hey just wanted to give you a quick heads up and let you know a few of the images aren’t loading properly. I’m not sure why but I think its a linking issue.
    I’ve tried it in two different internet browsers and both show the same outcome.

  18. Organizing photos is a great idea – I get so behind on that!

    You could rent/buy entire seasons of shows you’ve wanted to catch up on! I love watching them all at once instead of having to wait for one per week. LOL.

  19. As a bedrest veteran, I’m sending you hugs and good wishes! And don’t let those people who say, “Oh, I WISH I could be on bedrest” get you down. They just don’t understand.

    How about starting up a Lady and the Blog book? Or a book about surviving bedrest?

  20. Thinking of you and hope you are feeling a little better about the whole situation. As you know, it will ALL be worth it when you see that beautiful little baby. How lucky your little baby and kids are to have such a strong Mom. Take care of yourself. All the best!!! 🙂

  21. OMG bed rest is so boring! I remember it well. The things we do to for our kids! 🙂 Its all worth it in the end. You’ll find things to do, it’ll become your new normal, as I’m sure it being your third time you know. {{hugs}} from a fellow blogger, empath and type A personality.

  22. You are such an inspiration to so many people. You are able to be so honest about your feelings that is a trait to be admired. You are making the best of a difficult situation, but the end result will be worth it. Enjoy your tv and taking it easy as with three children and your career, life will be quite hectic. I do know where you are coming from as 24 years ago I was put on bedrest with a 2 year old who could not even sit on my lap but the time passed and the end result is that my son will turn 25 shortly and boy am I glad I listened to my doctors. My husband and I always get a laugh when we think about him doing the wash and he washed my daughter’s wool sweater in hot water and then dried it. Needless to say it barely fit a preemie cabbage patch doll after that. Good luck to all of you and know that a lot of people of routing for you every day.

  23. Hey Girl, I’m cheering you on! You WILL get through this (again)! Promise…it’s going to be a blip on the screen. Just a blip.
    I spent many a months on bedrest at home and in the hospital with my quad pregnancy, so I feel for you and will be praying.
    Life savers for me?
    *Visitors…even just someone coming over to drop off a book for a 10 minute chat.
    *Changing scenery. I started off the morning in bed, then to the couch for the afternoon, and a recliner laid back for the evening. Sound simple, but there was something I looked forward to about switching it up.
    *A small cooler that Brad would pack for me next to the couch with bottled water, juice, snack, etc.
    I’m sure there are more I can come up with…and I’m ALWAYS willing to chat, Woman. Love you! Stay strong!

  24. Loved your post. I could so relate. Glad you got a bedtray! Finding peace is key. Humor really helps too! Happy to help with ideas. I was on bedrest for 2 months in the hospital and started http://www.bedrestbutler.com

  25. You’re blessed to have such a great husband, and as a team, you guys can do this! It wasn’t until last winter when my boyfriend and I were snowed in that we realized we had one board game and only two Xbox games. Believe me we did a lot of reading, but we then looked into Blockbuster @Home from DISH. One of the gals I work with at DISH shared that that we could stream and rent DVDs, Blu-rays, and video games by mail with a monthly membership. The best part is that we got to try so many different games and watched so many different shows and movies without having to buy them all. By the way, cute dinner tray! Where did you get it?

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