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Stop Complaining: The Wake Up Call You’ve Been Waiting For

Two pretty profound things happened to me today . I love receiving wake up calls from the universe. Keeps me grounded. 😉  I’ll wrapped them both into one:

I was watching a show called “Love Handles: Couple in Crisis”. It’s a weight loss reality show based around a couple trying to get healthy. The woman on the show – in addition to having weight issues – was also having fertility issues. She was really in a dark place and something she said resonated with me.

She was talking about how all her friends were on their second or third child and admitted how sad she was that she couldn’t start a family of her own. She said she was sick and tired of hearing all her friends complain about swollen ankles, restless nights and cranky babies.

Then the woman started to WEEP and began to BEG for those swollen ankles. I was … besides myself. Gasping for air – hysterically crying. We all get so caught up in the negative. SO WHAT I’m on bed rest. SO WHAT my children come home from school and are out of control, protest homework and give me a hard time when they are in a mood.

I am SO BLESSED to have those cranky kids with all that homework. I am so BLESSED to be able to carry a child – no matter how difficult it might be.

Stop looking at your sink full of dishes with dispair. Be THANKFUL that you have enough money and people in your life to fill the sink with those plates.

We are all so centered around our own s*** that we forget how lucky we are to be knee deep in it.

So, the next time you feel overwhelmed because your children are driving you insane… be thankful instead. These days are fleeting. Soon they will leave us and we will be wishing for these years.


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Vera Sweeney, mom, blogger, social media influencer and New York resident, is the founder of She is considered one of the top female digital influencers in today’s social media space. Her lifestyle and parenting brand helps busy women stay on top of the latest trends in fashion, food, family and travel.


  1. Amen, Vera. Love this post. I try and really remember to be thankful and not complain too much (hey, we’re all human!) b/c there are so many less fortunate in so many ways…

  2. Ahhh I couldn’t agree with you more! I’m battling the insanely itchy puppps pregnancy rash right now but I know I am blessed and not cursed. I always say if you compared a room full of people and their own piles of s@$! I’d gladly take my own pile back! Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes faster for you 🙂

  3. So very true. Like many other things infertility is something you can not understand until you have experienced it. We are all blessed in some way or another even though at times it might be hard to see those blessings.

  4. Amen.

    I’d stay in bed for the rest of my life or live in a cardboard box or eat macaroni for the rest of my life…or anything, if my precious daughter could be alive again.

    And even with this, I’m mindful of the fact that some parents have had more than one of their children die. That is not lost on me.

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